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Embracing Grief and Loss

Embracing Grief and Loss

Being human means being vulnerable. We are sensate creatures meant to feel and emote. We typically prefer safety and routine and when we are forced to leave all things familiar and secure due to death or loss, we experience fear and grief. In fact, we may on any given day experience loss to one degree......

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Know Thyself

Know Thyself

Intimacy is knowing and being known in a manner that creates connection and safety. I sit with many couples who want intimacy, to feel that connection, to know the friendship and passion of intimacy. However, few want to truly explore what it takes to build it. They express a desire to be known, but do......

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Sex Addiction Label: Helpful or Not?

Sex Addiction Label

It is important to note that there is no sex addiction diagnosis in the DSM V (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual used to identify and describe psychiatric diagnosis). There is however a sex addiction label which has gained more attention in recent years. There is much discussion and at times argument, as to if sex......

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Dialectical Behavior Therapy: What is it and how can it help me?

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Dialectical Behavior Therapy, often referred to as DBT, is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy designed to teach people effective skills for living a more satisfying life. There are four main components of DBT. They are Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Distress Tolerance and Emotion Regulation. All four modules emphasize how to handle painful experiences effectively and......

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Us vs. Them

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VELVET STEELE Us vs. Them By KEN WELLS, LPC We can learn the art of fierce compassion by redefining strength, deconstructing isolation and renewing a sense of community, practicing letting go of rigid us-vs.-them thinking – while cultivating power and clarity in response to difficult situations. —Sharon Salzberg My experience with Little League baseball taught......

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Scoreboard Champions Vs. Heart Champions

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VELVET STEELE Scoreboard Champions vs. Heart Champions By KEN WELLS, LPC “Phony plays for a while but genuine plays for a lifetime” Ed Wade- former Phillies GM   It was a spring Friday in late April, 2001. It was a day I don’t think I will ever forget! My son Jimmy was a senior and......

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Rule Breakers

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VELVET STEELE Rule Breakers By KEN WELLS, LPC   “Learn and obey the rules very well, so you will know how to break them properly—“  The Dalai Lama   Danny Almonte was the talk of the Bronx during the summer of 2001. With his high leg kick and a fastball that reached a top speed......

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Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League

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VELVET STEELE Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League By KEN WELLS, LPC Life is rooted in community which is about bonding in relationships. Bonding is strongest within communities where values are forged, convictions are cemented and care for one another is formed. When bonds are......

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