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Rule Breakers

Rule Breakers chess piece

VELVET STEELE Rule Breakers By KEN WELLS, LPC   “Learn and obey the rules very well, so you will know how to break them properly—“  The Dalai Lama   Danny Almonte was the talk of the Bronx during the summer of 2001. With his high leg kick and a fastball that reached a top speed......

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Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League

Everything needed to know about recovery - Little league baseball mitt

VELVET STEELE Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League By KEN WELLS, LPC Life is rooted in community which is about bonding in relationships. Bonding is strongest within communities where values are forged, convictions are cemented and care for one another is formed. When bonds are......

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Turbulent Personality Traits

Stressed business man with turbulent personality traits

Turbulent Personality Traits include: Optimistic Hard working Goal oriented A leader A contagious spirit that gets others excited and invested in joint projects Likely the thought of a “turbulent” personality didn’t inspire the words of strength written above. People with turbulent traits have a number of strengths, perhaps so many that they have a hard......

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Mother Guilt/Mother Shame: Stop the Madness

Good enough Mom with her daughters

On a weekly basis, I meet with women in my therapy practice who feel like they are not good moms. When I explore this with them, I find that in contrast to their feelings of failure, they are doing a really good job. Their children are thriving: They do well in school, they have friends,......

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Destiny – A Manifesto for All

Destiny for all

VELVET STEELE Destiny—A Manifesto for All By KEN WELLS, LPC If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. – Henry David Thoreau It was an August evening over 50 years ago in a......

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Spiritual in the Ordinary

Spirituality in ordinary life on nature path

Spirituality is often thought of as something special or mystical. This depends on one’s interpretations, beliefs and faith as well. However spirituality is also found in the ordinary. A different view of Spirituality can be thought of as what the world or life is trying to teach us (depending on your orientation, world or life......

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Overview and Presentations of Sexual Addiction

Man standing in front of light overview of sexual addiction

By Ralph Earle (PhD, ABPP) and Rick Isenberg (MD, CSAT) In the human experience, sexual expression takes a myriad of forms, limited only by the bounds of imagination. As the field of human sexuality progresses, more and more sexual behaviours have been catalogued and acknowledged as normal variants. As myriad as the range of sexual......

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My Child Saw Pornography

My Child Saw Pornography

Annmarie Lange discusses the growing challenge many parents face in her article “My Child Saw Pornography, What Should I Do?“ More and more young children are using the internet unsupervised. Lack of supervision leads to accidental exposure and misconceptions of love. Lange offers several great tips and considerations if you and your child are faced......

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A Parable of Recovery

A Parable of Recovery

I have sat in many sessions with clients at PCS who express their reluctance to step outside their typical zone of comfort. They may even be sitting in the middle of an extensive and extended treatment process (the PCS Intensive) with others and seemingly having strong insights and meaningful awareness as it pertains to their......

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