Spiritual in the Ordinary

Spirituality is often thought of as something special or mystical. This depends on one’s interpretations, beliefs and faith as well. However spirituality is also found in the ordinary. A different view of Spirituality can be thought of as what the world or life is trying to teach us (depending on your orientation, world or life......

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Disenfranchised Grief

Processes of Grief

As human beings, we harbor attachments to each other, animals, places and things. With great attachment comes great loss—deaths, separations, divorces, and life transitions. When these attachments are broken we each experience a personal grieving process. Society has developed rules about our grief process, such as what losses we grieve, how we grieve them, and......

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Discovering Love

Discovering Love

This is not a story of finding love in all the wrong places, nor is it going to be an intellectual discussion on love and how to define it. For me, love has been a challenging concept, and I am certain its understanding has alluded me. This story lacks the detail to fully describe a......

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Equine Assisted Psychotherapy – “How does that work?”

Equine Assisted Therapy

“What do you do?” The dreaded question that occurs when meeting people in new social circles. How do I explain in words that which needs to be experienced? It has taken me over a decade to perfect my “elevator speech” into a concise, understandable sentence that leaves people both knowing and wondering at the same......

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A Key for Relationship Satisfaction: Emotion Skills

Emotion Skills are key for relationship satisfaction

An abundance of research demonstrates the association between emotion skills and relationship satisfaction. Emotion skills can be defined as the ability to identify, manage, and express emotions. Emotion skills offer the ability to genuinely express your emotions, identify with your partner’s emotions, and to improve one’s ability to tolerate distress. Emotions cannot damage relationships; rather,......

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Heart of Gratitude

heart of gratitude

Gratitude means having an appreciation for life in the present moment. It’s counting our blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging the abundance already here. When we are truly thankful for what we already have and content with what is – this is enough. We tend to take for granted all the good that is already......

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The Chameleon Complex

Chameleon Complex

The Chameleon Complex  |  Timothy M. Tays, PhD Many people look good but feel bad. They are chronically stressed, sad, and anxious. They are lonely in their marriages and disconnected in their relationships. They know something is wrong but have no idea what it might be. They fear, “If you really knew me, you wouldn’t......

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Thriving

We humans are programmed to seek and be fulfilled by connection (e.g. to God/Higher power, with self, and to self, and with others). Unlike most other mammals (or animals in general!), we are completely dependent on that connection with a parent/caregivers for our survival not just for days, but for many years. Our basic on-going......

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