Thriving

We humans are programmed to seek and be fulfilled by connection (e.g. to God/Higher power, with self, and to self, and with others). Unlike most other mammals (or animals in general!), we are completely dependent on that connection with a parent/caregivers for our survival not just for days, but for many years. Our basic on-going......

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Fixing

As humans, “fixing” is part of our nature. We are logical, strategic, solution oriented beings that are often taught from a young age that a question always has an answer and a problem always has a fix. After all, we invented the wheel when things became to heavy to carry and found fire when we......

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Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

Self-esteem is partly determined by the ability to be truthful with a humble spirit in order to identify with the “realness” of who we are while gaining insight into our life story. No one can change what is unknown or denied. The transformation of our life script takes rigorous honesty, mentoring, reflection, self-care and a......

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Embracing Grief and Loss

Embracing Grief and Loss

Being human means being vulnerable. We are sensate creatures meant to feel and emote. We typically prefer safety and routine and when we are forced to leave all things familiar and secure due to death or loss, we experience fear and grief. In fact, we may on any given day experience loss to one degree......

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Know Thyself

Know Thyself

Intimacy is knowing and being known in a manner that creates connection and safety. I sit with many couples who want intimacy, to feel that connection, to know the friendship and passion of intimacy. However, few want to truly explore what it takes to build it. They express a desire to be known, but do......

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Dialectical Behavior Therapy: What is it and how can it help me?

Man smiling after dialectical behavior therapy

Dialectical Behavior Therapy, often referred to as DBT, is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy designed to teach people effective skills for living a more satisfying life. There are four main components of DBT. They are Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Distress Tolerance and Emotion Regulation. All four modules emphasize how to handle painful experiences effectively and......

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Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League

Everything needed to know about recovery - Little league baseball mitt

VELVET STEELE Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League By KEN WELLS, LPC Life is rooted in community which is about bonding in relationships. Bonding is strongest within communities where values are forged, convictions are cemented and care for one another is formed. When bonds are......

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Destiny – A Manifesto for All

Destiny for all

VELVET STEELE Destiny—A Manifesto for All By KEN WELLS, LPC If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. – Henry David Thoreau It was an August evening over 50 years ago in a......

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Overview and Presentations of Sexual Addiction

Man standing in front of light overview of sexual addiction

By Ralph Earle (PhD, ABPP) and Rick Isenberg (MD, CSAT) In the human experience, sexual expression takes a myriad of forms, limited only by the bounds of imagination. As the field of human sexuality progresses, more and more sexual behaviours have been catalogued and acknowledged as normal variants. As myriad as the range of sexual......

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